Our society is two-faced; i.e it has different fundamentals for different mindsets and the youth of today finds it difficult to connect with the so-called societal norms. The youth of today has a voice and when that voice is raised, it becomes difficult for the society to adapt to that change and then it leads to clashes of mindsets. One who silently accepts the societal norm is considered fit for this hypocrite society and for the rest, society has no space. Our young generation of today has both good qualities and some deficiencies in them. This generation has a series of understandings and emotions that the previous generations did not possess and therefore, we must always give them the benefit of the doubt.
At the same time, they also have some corrupt thoughts and negative ethical traits which must be removed from their character. It is not possible to remove these traits from them without keeping in mind and respecting the good qualities that the youth possess – meaning their understandings, emotions and their other noble traits and qualities – thus, we must show respect to them in these regards.
‘My Virgin Diary’ by Nalin Singh which is going to hit all digital platforms by January 2018; portrays the life of today’s youth. It is a story of a few small-town boys, who form a music band. They go through a phase of life where they question the basics of relationships, love, and sex.
Nalin has spend his teenage days in Delhi university hostel and knows well the trauma that a person living in a hostel goes through. Through his web series, ‘My Virgin Diary’, Nalin wants to portray that face of the youth which only few can understand. The teenage life is full of passion, and possession through his movies, Nalin is showing both. My Virgin diary deals with different moods of today’s youth and the protagonist has been shown juggling between those moods. He fails to establish a connect between his emotional and rational thoughts and ultimately let his emotion intellect win.
The youth of today will definitely connect themselves with the plot and characters of the movie as the story is based on the real-life incident of a student. The movie raises few bold questions about youth’s loneliness, depression and the idea of sex. When we talk about sex, then our society has different precedent for both the genders. Our society is patriarchal and no matter how much we talk about women empowerment, we will never we able to keep females on par with the males. We are living in the technological era but our thinking is still stagnant. Our society can’t accept women with spine and therefore there are unusual guidelines for them. In our society women is considered to be an embodiment of all things pure, but then this word “pure” comes with a caution. In our Indian culture women is considered pure, if she is virgin. Yes, virginity in our culture is of utmost importance and there are different myths associated with the virginity of a woman.
While virginity is linked to the idea of purity, societal pressures to remain pure before marriage fall mainly on women. No one seems to believe that men should also stay virgins before marriage. Rather, virginity in our culture is only related to bleeding from the breaking of the hymen rather than the preservation of purity in both sexes.
Our culture concentrates solely on the woman’s virginity rather than that of the man. On the night of the marriage, it is expected that the woman’s hymen will be ruptured with the attendant blood stain on the sheets and if the same doesn’t happen, then the repercussions are brutal. No excuses or explanations can be offered if this doesn’t happen because it is completely unacceptable if a woman has been “deflowered” prior to her marriage. Women’s virginity had always been a burning issue in our society and has led to several bigger movements as well as reforms which are there in the history books. However, as per the fact, a woman’s hymen can be ruptured in numerous ways, such as riding a bicycle or strenuous physical activity. The hymen could break before marriage through a variety of means other than sexual intercourse and is in no way an indication of sexual promiscuousness.Additionally, it is scientifically proven that sometimes there is no blood present during a woman’s first experience of sexual intercourse. What does it say about our society when we grant no excuses for a woman’s supposed “non-virginity” — even if her virginity was taken by another man against her will.
Also in many cases, it is very important to bleed during the first night as it is considered to be a symbol of pride and prestige, but nobody has ever considered the harmful effect that this very thought has on a woman’s intellect. Since teenage, a woman is taught to be extra cautious and to keep her virginity intact. She is taught through her own parents and the so-called society to hide her breast with a shawl, avoid being friendly with strangers and that having any relationship before marriage is a sin and women to keeps or indulge in any activity like this before marriage is considered to be immoral by the society. This very thought is so disturbing and it won’t let one live independently in this democratic society. Being virgin is a topic that has no end and the debate on this topic will go on and on. Hope that the people become more literate about the fact that losing virginity has nothing to do with being moral and stop judging women’s on the basis of virginity.